Joshua Harris (2003) Sex Is Not The Problem (Lust Is).
"You can't bargain with lust and come out a winner.
God wants you to enbrace your sexuality. And battling lust is part of how you do that.
...to rightly embrace our sexuality we must bring it under the dominion of the One who created it.
When are you weak? What are your lust triggers?
Meditiate on scripture, set-up a telephone call to an accountability partner, pray and listen to worship music.
For many men and women, the internet isn't just a little battle; it's the main battle ground where they're tempted daily to indulge in lust.
Lust is always based on the same lie -that satisfaction will be found apart from God.
A man's sexual desire is often more physical, while a woman's desire is more often rooted in emotional longing.
Men are tempted by the pleasure lust offers, while women are tempted by the power lust promises.
Ultimatley, lust doesn't want sex. It wants the forbidden, and it's willing to take you deeper and deeper into preversion if you'll indulge in its latest request.
Sexual realise is not the antidote to lust.
...masturbation is something the vast majority of men and women deal with on some level.
Many of us thought of this little trick before we were old enough to know what it was called.
Here's my advice: Get married.
If you'reburning with passion, God is calling you to marriage. Get yourself ready! Get your eyes (and hands) off of yourself, and pursue the sacrifice, love, responsibility, selflessness and God-glorifying sex of marriage.
If you're in a church, don't just attend - immerse yourself in the life of the church. If there's a process for becoming a member, dive into it. If the church has small groups, join one. Introduce yourself to the pastors. :e them know who you are, and communicate your support.
Be the one to take the first step.
Don't fall into the vague confession, be specific.
If I withhold details from accountability partners, I limit the intensity of my own conviction and limit my friends ability to help.
Specific confessions lead to specific encouragement, specific accountability, and specific prayer.
Repentence involves a change of heart and a decision to turn away from sin.
We need to pray for each other and keep checking in with each other.
The Christian life is a race, but it's a race we run together.
Hand-to-hand combat with lust doesn'twork - I need the sword of the Spirit.
The fire of lusts pleasures must be fought with the fire of God's pleasures.
...for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
...found herself going online when she was feelig lonely or depressed.
Find someone you can trust and respect of the same gender who will put the question to you straight - and wait for your answer.
" Joshua Harris (2003) pg41

This book has really related to my life through the testimony of other people struggling with the same problem of lust.